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Instructions for Tying International Scarf Stylist Tricia James Beautiful Orange Pashima Scarf/Shawl

Tuesday, March 1st, 2011

I am happy to present the instructions for tying and styling Tricia’s original and unique way of wearing an Orange Pashima Scarf/Shawl. This demonstration is by Tricia James, photos and written directions by Lady Violette. You can also visit Tricia at her website, Tricia is an International Scarf and Accessories Stylist

The finished pashima scarf beautifully tied.


Begin by folding the scarf in half lengthwise.


Drape over shoulders.


Loop scarf around neck & adjust with both ends coming forward in even lengths.


Take Left side of scarf loop end and bring it under & around…


under & around…


several times…


as shown…


on Left side…


Do the same thing with the Right side of the shawl wrapping the end under & around…


under & around…


until both sides of shawl are fully wrapped,


and hanging down in the front.


Next, slip your finger into one of the loops on the upper Left hand side of the shawl as Tricia demonstrates here.


Next, pull that loop up and out a bit,


then continue to “style it out” by spreading it apart with your fingers,


as she demonstrates in the photos…


To complete the style arrange the extended loop to your liking, adjusting the fullness of the scarf to fit attractively on your neck.


Make sure the ends of the scarf and the fringes are hanging down and arranged neatly as shown!


Admire your work! You have just tied and styled your pashima beautifully!


Elegant & Flattering New Tie On a Pashima Shawl

Monday, February 28th, 2011

Pashima Shawl Folded & Tied as a Scarf to Ring the Neck & Light the Face in Flattering Color

In her never ending creativity with scarves and shawls International Scarf Stylist Tricia has just invented this new way to wear a pashima – as a beautifully styled scarf to ring the neck and light the face in flattering color.

She actually just invented this new method of tying the shawl! It amazes me because I have seen stacks of these in department stores in scores of pretty colors and wondered exactly what one was supposed to do with them, beyond the obvious thing of wrapping your shoulders with a stole.

Now I feel like I need a stack of pretty colors to wear in all the ways she ties them! If you find a color that flatters your complexion, eyes, or hair (or all three) and learn how to tie it, you have an instantly unique accessory that lights up your face and also adds a bit of warmth around your neck and shoulders. And is unique to you!

The right scarf/shawl and way of tying it can transform any simple dress or blouse into a stunning outfit. I have begun to think of them as transformers! This is a traditional cashmere Pashima shawl size 28″ x 80″ and is folded and tied to wear as shown.

We are working on writing and photographing the directions for tying a pashima like this so you can learn to do it yourself. I’ll post them soon. meanwhile you can visit International Scarf Stylist Tricia James at

The Fine Art of Draping the Human Figure

Saturday, February 26th, 2011

The Fine Art of Draping the Figure

Artists have drawn and painted the human figure draped in beautiful folds of cloth to enhance its intrinsic grace for as long as they have been making art.

And I have been thinking about this all week as I have studied the pictures of Tricia’s beautiful scarf tying techniques.

What could be more stylish and feminine in any time in history or in any culture than a beautifully draped human figure? I can’t think of anything! But I can think of many beautiful examples of draping.

There were the, the Egyptians, the Greeks, the Romans, the East Indian Women in their exquisite saris, Isadora Duncan the modern dancer, and more beautiful sculptures and paintings than anyone ever could list – just to mention a few examples. Every museum is full of them!

Draping the female figure alluringly is most definitely an example of the Feminine Arts throughout History.

Here Tricia has again used her basic wrap of the white silk shawl, then decorated it with a Ficcare Maximas Clip. These are designed to use in the hair to hold French twists and buns in place, but we have found them to work as excellent shawl and scarf clips as well.

I will post instructions for tying and styling these scarves soon. In the meantime you may visit International Scarf Stylist Tricia James at

The White Shawl “Scrunched” to make a Fresh Stylized Flower Blooming in the Cold and Snowy Dead of Winter!

Friday, February 25th, 2011

White Shawl with Schrunchy Flower Styled by Tricia James

Here is yet another variation on the same basic wrap of the white shawl – this time “Scrunched” with a brown taffeta hair scrunchy. This flowery variation blew me away!

Tricia took a cloth covered hair scrunchy edged in beads, and pulled a section of the shawl through it, then fanned it out to create a Stylized Flower on one shoulder. After shaping it with her fingers she secured the “flower” with one corsage sized long straight pin, hiding the pearl pin head in the folds of the flower.

It is snowing outside and this is a way you can make and wear a fresh flower corsage in spite of the weather! And what a clever way to actually use that stack of seldom worn hair scrunchies made of pretty fabrics that have accumulated in a drawer! I must have 1/2 a dozen of them in various colors that I am now excited to try out as flowers on scarves!

Tricia will come back next week to help me write up directions for tying and styling these scarves which I will then post for you to follow. Meanwhile you can visit International Scarf Stylist Tricia James at

I am going to make myself some hair scrunchies  just for the purpose of wearing them as cloth shawl flowers. This seems like a great way to utilize a small bit of pretty fabric, doesn’t it? When I figure out how to make them I will post the instructions as well.

The White Shawl Again – This Time Antiqued with a Vintage Gold Brooch by Sara Coventry

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

White Shawl - Antiqued with Vintage Gold Brooch

Here is the white shawl yet again! Tied in the same basic way and accented with a lovely vintage 1950’s gold double pin brooch with a chain and dangles designed by Sara Coventry. This would be beautiful paired with a simple gold bangle bracelet , gold rings and gold earrings. I like all the looks we have tried so far, but I think this one is particularly  glamorous. It demonstrates my belief that vintage glamor is timeless.

The creamy natural white silk shawl is a perfect foil for gold jewelry which in turn is very flattering to every skin tone. The reason gold jewelry is popular is that it actually does softly flatter women and, if carefully chosen, can be worn with just about anything.

The gold is lovely here paired with the white shawl and would be equally so with a perfect white blouse. I have put it over a basic dark velvet sheath dress. A dark sheath dress, or a dark skirt or pants always work as base pieces under scarves and shawls.

The same white raw silk shawl, again, is tied by International Scarf Stylist Tricia James of

Soon, Tricia will give us instructions with pictures to follow on how to do these shawl and scarf ties and variations  ourselves. then we will have to practice! I for one am determined to master this!

I should point out that i antiqued the photo one step as I could not resist doing so to enhance the antique feeling just a touch. It just made the photo a tad warmer.

An Asian Style Shawl Clip is an Option – Rushing is Not Glamorous! Ever! Relax and Take Your Time, Contemplate Your Options as You Put Yourself Together, Enjoy the Process…

Monday, February 21st, 2011

White Scarf Styled with Japanese Lobster Hair Clip by Tricia James

Here is the same  initial wrap and tie of the white scarf I posted yesterday. Styled by Tricia James. But here she has achieved a completely different look. She has accessorized the shawl with a beautiful black lobster hair clip from Japan that is decorated in a lacquer finish with red flower and a butterfly on a broad black clip underlaid in bright red. This creates an Asian feel of austere elegance. Peace and quiet! Calm! Pure Zen!

I consider the way a scarf or shawl is tied to be an art form. The way a woman presents herself to the world, when she has the time and inclination to do so elegantly styled, is a performance art of sorts.

Of course dressing carefully and artistically takes time. One cannot rush! Rushing is not glamorous. Ever! It makes one feel awful! It is always nice to be able to get ready to go out in a relaxed manner, slowly and methodically. The process is enjoyable then, not rushed and stressful.

I suggest you make yourself a violet or lavender cocktail, and allow yourself a half hour to put yourself together. Relax – and getting ready might just be the most enjoyable part of your evening!

Contrast that idea with the stressful modern practice of rushing around like a chicken with its head cut off to get ready to leave which is just awful! So uncivilized!

I am now going to be gathering up accessories items I barely ever use  – and shawls and scarves I can’t figure out how to tie or drape properly. Barrettes that are too large or heavy or slippery to stay in my hair. Scrunchies I only wore once, headbands and lobster clips. Tricia wittily utilizes all of these varied items in her scarf and shawl styling techniques. Other good additions are finger rings, actual scarf clips, brooches, pins, chains, elastics, feathers and flowers, and all manner of heretofore unusable hair clips that can, hopefully, be redirected to higher and better uses decorating scarves and shawls. Finding out what can be done with them should be great fun!  I will show more of Tricia’s ideas on my blog so keep coming back for more and visit International Scarf Stylist Tricia James at to see what else she is up to.

You Can Sash Your Waist With a Scarf! or Do It Doll Size! There are Endless Possibilities with Scarves and Imagination!

Monday, February 21st, 2011

A Dramatic Scarf Sashed at the Waist by Tricia James

Isn’t this a darling way to use a scarf!  Tricia James has taken a small pocket sized square, folded it and wrapped the waist of my little 16″ tall mannequin as if she is wearing a giant sash! She has put one of the scarf clips in her collection at the waist as if it is a pretty buckle. This is one of her own designs and is gold plated over sterling silver and set with small pearls, the epitome of classic elegance.

Of course you can use a larger scarf and make a waist sash to fit yourself. Either a square or rectangular scarf will work. Wouldn’t it be pretty to wear a vibrant silk scarf this way over a simple black dress and accent the whole with vintage or modern costume jewelry you just happen to have? I have used my string of vintage red glass beads doubled to fit the little dress form. I am able to be wear it myself as a long single strand necklace. Any brooch or scarf clip could be used as a clip at the waist. Even a hair clip will work!

I have lots of scarves languishing in my dresser drawers and I am anxious to get them out and try them in all these new ways! I can see that the strategic use of  scarves can transform and massively extend my wardrobe. I am wondering, for example, how many different looking outfits I could create with two  basic dresses and five different scarves… And what a great solution this would be while traveling  – allowing me to travel light and still have enough different looks along to be super stylish and surprising at all times! It is exciting to consider this. Also, it requires no shopping (or spending of money) so it is a very economical solution to updating one’s wardrobe for the spring season. I liken this to going shopping in my own house which is always a good thing. Everyone probably has a lot of untapped potential in their closets and drawers that they don’t realize is there or know how to use. Specifically, a lot of scarves and shawls that could come out and get used imaginatively…They are kind of wasted sitting in dark drawers aren’t they?

This small dress form pictured is the same size as a Madame Alexader Cissy doll at 16″ tall. Madame Alexander also makes the My Favorite Friend doll who is 18″ tall and is designed to be a play doll. I have discovered that you can make great outfits to dress dolls out of scarves. This is a fun way to play with dolls with little girls while teaching them ways to tie and wear scarves themselves when they grow up.

Scarf tying is a fascinating subject! Definitely an art form and definitely one of the Feminine Arts! Lovely!

I am thinking, this small one on this tiny mannequin looks like a beautiful red silk skirt worn over a straight black sheath dress. Why couldn’t I find or make a gigantic scarf into a “skirt”  like this and wear it over a straight black jersey dress, thus creating an elegant high drama look? It is all about changing the proportions. A large silk scarf made into a wide sash at the waist, human sized, is one lovely idea. And a much bigger scarf made into sash so large it becomes a dramatic overskirt is another! I am inspired and I must try it! So I will, soon…and I will post a picture of the results!

Visit International Scarf Stylist Tricia James at where she shows many of the things she is creating and producing…

The JOY perfume bottles are from Lady Violette’s personal collection of classic vintage perfume bottles.

A Simply Beautiful White Silk Scarf Pinned with a Silk Flower! Exquisite!

Monday, February 21st, 2011

Scarf Styled by Tricia James

This is a large off white gauzy raw silk scarf. It is a 3 ft x 6 ft rectangle. It is artfully draped and tied by my friend, International Scarf and Accessories Stylist, Tricia James.

Tricia has endless ideas and techniques for using the accessory pieces you already have and those you might buy! She is an absolute wizard when it comes to tying scarves.

We are embarking upon documenting her styles in photographs and video. And we will be writing instructions on how to do it yourself. She created 6 looks for me out of this one white scarf!  She also showed me how to use other items I already have to accent it and create different looks. In this particular case – the white silk flower pinned to the shawl with a pearl headed corsage pin.

This is so light, airy and romantic! I just love it! Perfect Lady Violette Styling! It also reminds me of a romantic poet’s shirt! And that is a look I have always loved!

This week I will make 6 different blog posts showing this scarf in each of it’s different renditions. Tricia is returning on Wednesday and we will write instructions illustrated with photographs on how to wrap and tie this or any similar large rectangular scarf or Pashima to achieve  this stunning effect. You can try it then and let me know if it is clear to follow and works.

We are achieving these elegant photographic effects in my kitchen corner nook! The only place in the house with strong enough natural light! Sometimes I actually enjoy the challenge of seeing how nice I can make something look with the most limited or restricted of resources – such as a completely bare bones photographic set up or a very inexpensive item picked up in a thrift shop and made to look amazing, original and expensive.

In this case the white scarf we have used came from a thrift store. It was $2  and was completely clean. It looked as if it had never been used. The silk flower was $7.50 at my local sewing supply store. I believe beautiful items like this scarf end up in thrift stores because people receive them as gifts or buy them without understanding how to use them. Sometimes, as in this case, this becomes a lucky find for the clever thrift store shopper. That illustrates the thrill of the hunt!

Consider this photo a little preview of things to come! More scarves, more ideas on how to wear them, more technical advice on how to wrap and tie them. And more from and about the scarf styling expert! Tricia James is